Brihard said:You're not a jerk for wanting your roommate to get a grip on this. It's a bit of a dick move on his part to show such a lack of discretion, but good on you for taking the manner in hand and making sure you have a grasp of the pertinent facts before addressing the issue with him. The circumstances are obviously awkward, but it came up; don't whitewash the matter, and don't beat it to death either. Others have offered sound advice on how to handle this yourself in a way that shouldn't leave either of you feeling too raw.
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