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OPEN LETTER TO VIETNAM VETERANS

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OPEN LETTER TO VIETNAM VETERANS

http://www.patriotfiles.com/forum/showthread.php?t=44738


Dear Hero,

I was in my twenties during the Vietnam era. I was a single mother and, I'm sad to say, I was probably one of the most self-centered people on the planet. To be perfectly honest.I didn't care one way or the other about the war. All I cared about was me-how I looked, what I wore, and where I was going. I worked and I played. I was never politically involved in anything, but I allowed my opinions to be formed by the media. It happened without my ever being aware. I listened to the protest songs and I watched the six o'clock news and I listened to all the people who were talking. After awhile, I began to repeat their words and, if you were to ask me, I'd have told you I was against the war. It was very popular. Everyone was doing it, and we never saw what it was doing to our men. All we were shown was what they were doing to the people of Vietnam .

My brother joined the Navy and then he was sent to Vietnam . When he came home, I repeated the words to him. It surprised me at how angry he became. I hurt him very deeply and there were years of separation-not only of miles, but also of character. I didn't understand.

In fact, I didn't understand anything until one day I opened my newspaper and saw the anguished face of a Vietnam veteran. The picture was taken at the opening of the Vietnam Veterans Memorial in Washington , D.C. His countenance revealed the terrible burden of his soul. As I looked at his picture and his tears, I finally understood a tiny portion of what you had given for us and what we had done to you. I understood that I had been manipulated, but I also knew that I had failed to think for myself. It was like waking up out of a nightmare, except that the nightmare was real. I didn't know what to do.

One day about three years ago, I went to a member of the church I attended at that time, because he had served in Vietnam . I asked him if he had been in Vietnam , and he got a look on his face and said, "Yes." Then, I took his hand, looked him square in the face, and said, "Thank you for going." His jaw dropped, he got an amazed look on his face, and then he said, "No one has ever said that to me." He hugged me and I could see that he was about to get tears in his eyes. It gave me an idea, because there is much more that needs to be said. How do we put into words all the regret of so many years? I don't know, but when I have an opportunity, I take it so here goes.

Have you been to Vietnam ? If so, I have something I want to say to you-Thank you for going! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Please forgive me for my insensitivity. I don't know how I could have been so blind, but I was. When I woke up, you were wounded and the damage was done, and I don't know how to fix it. I will never stop regretting my actions, and I will never let it happen again.

Please understand that I am speaking for the general public also. We know we blew it and we don't know how to make it up to you. We wish we had been there for you when you came home from Vietnam because you were a hero and you deserved better. Inside of you there is a pain that will never completely go away and you know what? It's inside of us, too; because when we let you down, we hurt ourselves, too. We all know it and we suffer guilt and we don't know what to do so we cheer for our troops and write letters to "any soldier" and we hang out the yellow ribbons and fly the flag and we love America. We love you too, even if it doesn't feel like it to you. I know in my heart that, when we cheer wildly for our troops, part of the reason is trying to make up for Vietnam. And while it may work for us, it does nothing for you.

We failed you. You didn't fail us, but we failed you and we lost our only chance to be grateful to you at the time when you needed and deserved it. We have disgraced ourselves and brought shame to our country. We did it and we need your forgiveness. Please say you will forgive us and please take your rightful place as heroes of our country. We have learned a terribly painful lesson at your expense and we don't know how to fix it.

From the heart,

Julie Weaver
237 East Gatewood Circle
Burleson, Texas 76028-8948
 
She, 30+ years later decides she feels guilty.......nah.....don't mean nothin'
 
http://www.worldwideclassified.net/julieweaver/bio.htm

The Open Letter to Vietnam Veterans was written in 1991 at the height of Desert Storm. At the time, I was writing letters to local people who had been sent to Desert Storm. The televised war was having a terrible effect on Vietnam veterans, causing flashbacks and bad feelings. Some of them wrote letters to the editor to the Fort Worth Star-Telegram and that was how I learned that it wasn't too late for my thoughts.
 
One key to preventing and dealing with OSI/PTSD is healthy and productive attitudes among the civilian population that the Soldiers go home to. I've read Achilles in Vietnam and Odysseus in America recently to better understand PTSD before going off to Afghanistan and I've found both books to be worthwhile reads. They are a great companion to the Iliad and Odyssey and outline how the American military and American public did a great disservice to the Soldiers who returned from Vietnam. I agree that the letter is very much too late but it is a nice gesture and hopefully it offered some small level of comfort to those who read it and I certainly hope it reminds those civilians who read it that they have a degree of power in effecting the mental health of their Veterans.
 
It a strange thing - Vietnam vets never got a homecoming welcome.
It's a terrible shame to think that these citzens, who were asked (or told) to fight in the jungles of Indo China were treated so shabily when they came home...  Treated mostly as baby killers if they were at all recognized, most just slinked back into society & tried to make their own way back into society.

Thank god our serving soldiers are being treated somewhat better this time around.
 
I somewhat agree with GAP, it's a little too little and a little to late to be apologetic, however, as the age old saying goes "better late than never".  I think that if this letter helped one person feel better about themselves for being there, and helped the writter feel better about herself, then the letter served its purpose.
 
Question.... Is it better for this lady to have kept her yap shut & leave things unsaid OR to have admitted that, at one point in her life, she got it wrong & now she understands?

Do we give her a standard thank you for your thoughs OR tell her to blow it out her butt n'F&*k Off & die?

GAPs view asside, I think we should still give thanks for one person's wake up call.
 
GAPs view asside, I think we should still give thanks for one person's wake up call.

Since ( I fear ) there is a danger of this history repeating itself.

What she desribes as the formation of her opinion by media is an
important cautionary tale.
 
I suspect alot of western journalists who were too young for 'nam said to themselves "gee, that looks like fun" and are trying to create their own "Vietnams" to report on. I don't think the journalists of today (or EVER, historically) understand how critical of a role they fill in a democratic society. I whole heartedly disagree that it is the Soldier who defends democracy, it is clearly the journalist who stokes the fire that drives a responsible democracy, and provides the voting public with the information that they need to make rational decisions and shape their opinions of the world around them.
 
GDawg said:
it is clearly the journalist who stokes the fire that drives a responsible democracy, and provides the voting public
with the information that they need to make rational decisions and shape their opinions of the world around them.

Yes, but when the mass media are all singing the same song, I think a responsable voting public should be sometimes
interested enough to go take a peek further. With the internet nowadays, you don't have to take everything you're hearing
around you for cash. More informations is often only a click away.
 
You guys are misinterpreting my comment.....she hasn't changed.....it's still all about her.
 
You guys are misinterpreting my comment.....she hasn't changed.....it's still all about her.

Sorry Gap, Your perspective isn't obvious to those of us who don't share your
experience.
 
GAP said:
You guys are misinterpreting my comment.....she hasn't changed.....it's still all about her.

Well then enlighten us to what she should have said for HER to sound more apologetic to the Vet's of  VietNam, even though I said I slightly agree with you, I still said she did a good thing, but she did apologize for HER actions. I am just confused about how it's all about her? I know when I apologize to someone I say that I am Sorry for MY actions, and how what I did hurt you, so for that I am sorry! So most apologies are selfish as you are apologizing for your own actions; and that is what she was doing, apologizing for her actions
 
This letter my be a little late but it is still very moving and
relevant,not just to the US veterans of the Vietnam war but
also to the soldiers fighting in Iraq and A-stan.US,British
or Canadians.All of them are returning to populations that are
beginning to demonstrate the same attitudes that were popular
during the Vietnam war.If only some our leading academics
could demonstrate such regrets and admit they may have been
wrong during the 60s,don't hold your breath.
                                      Regards
 
As a Viet Nam vet, my response is “Yea, ok, better late then never” Bottom line it doesn’t change who I am or the way I live my life. I didn’t serve because I wanted to be loved or wanted peoples approval. If I wanted love and approval I would have become a fireman! I served because I was a soldier, a professional, a member of the profession of arms.
Gap, my brother, I know where you are coming from, but she is a civilian. What she thought of us then or now is immaterial. Our job was to provide her the protection that allowed her the freedom to think whatever she wished.
 
well said ExSarge

I don't think anyone has ever joined the military to please someone... xcept perhaps himself.
 
1RNBR said:
Well then enlighten us to what she should have said for HER to sound more apologetic to the Vet's of  VietNam, even though I said I slightly agree with you, I still said she did a good thing, but she did apologize for HER actions. I am just confused about how it's all about her? I know when I apologize to someone I say that I am Sorry for MY actions, and how what I did hurt you, so for that I am sorry! So most apologies are selfish as you are apologizing for your own actions; and that is what she was doing, apologizing for her actions

Selfish or not, it'd be nice if a lot more people went through the same thought process...
 
I agree if only more people were to go through the same thought process, the world would be a better place! :salute:
 
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